Tough Talk

Tough Talk
Why are all of you saying terrible things about your neighbors, friends and relatives?  If you can’t say something good, refuse to say anything. Be kind, be caring, and be nice.
How many more years do we all have in this world? Why spend time, energy, wasting our years on such stupidity as being cruel to people. Stop Look & Listen to people and stop prejudging. People would want to be in your company if you are agreeable and take the time to hear their opinions. We are products of our biases. We learn to be prejudicial and we then judge people by their disadvantages and we in turn can hurt, harm, & damage people. Are we just a bunch of senior bullies?
Stop prejudging people …start now. Establish a new you. Do not be a spreader of stupidity about anyone. Do you know why people are the way they are? Perhaps they are bored, lost in their own dilemmas, ill, very unhappy, only thinking about themselves, not about the other person’s feelings. Gossiping is wrong. Take time to think about what you are doing to another human being. Do not add any more stress in their lives.
Live to begin again, love all you can, learn more about yourself..
Spread the joy of living, loving & learning
Leave it to Loretta
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Listen to Learn

AS A GRANDMOTHER and Octogenarian I was very saddened and outraged by the killings in Florida of such beautiful children and teachers. Why did this happen and how can we as seniors and grandparents help to prevent this from ever happening again?
Have we taken too much of a backseat in the lives of our families? Are our own aches and pains taking precedence over being engaged in the welfare of our loved ones. At the very least we should make ourselves available to listen and coach. We are not too old to make a phone call, send a text or visit and take action when we know there is a problem. Reach out and be accessible.
We are all able to contribute encouraging words –We are not too old to be heard. Love is not limited by age. The love that caring seniors extend is usually non-judgmental and rich with understanding and experiences.
Many of us have run to warmer climates to hide and disengage but it does leave a gap in family continuity and traditions. Don’t go running to a warmer climate until the chill is gone from your own backyard. Take the time and effort to learn what your family is doing, what are their expectations and dreams and how do they spend their time. Become more than the occasional phone call and the sporadic birthday greeting. Let your family and friends know that they can count on you to listen and to be attentive to them. Create new traditions with younger family members that move them from behind the computer screens and into learning a new craft, cooking, repairing or just taking a walk. Children love to learn and have new experiences. By sharing life affirming activities you demonstrate that you care about the person and want to spend time with them which is certainly more important than money in a greeting card.
Many of the perpetrators of the recent horrific crimes have been people that appear to be lost without stability  with no regular reminders that they are valued and loved. Please do your utmost to be active and engaged in the mental health and stability of your family. It’s no time to hide get involved in solutions.
A recent story on TED Talks featured Dixon Chibanda. He is one of twelve psychiatrists in Zimbabwe for a population of sixteen million. Since he is unable to effectively treat the huge population without assistance he and his colleagues have developed a solution that is brilliant. He has trained Grandmothers as his helpers. The grandmothers sit on a “listening bench” in the village. The Grandmother who meets with the person asks the person to speak about their problems. The Grandmother listens! It is very comforting to the people who are in pain. In addition the “listening bench” is located in their neighborhood so they don’t have to travel far for a comforting word – Very often a little encouragement and taking the time to hear their problems makes a BIG DIFFERENCE! The Zimbabwe clinical trial is a success. –
see it on TED Talks-https://itunes.com/apps/tedconferences/ted
Stop hiding behind the shuffleboard court under a palm tree – start your own listening bench and make a difference that empowers future generations & helps them stabilize emotionally. They need to know that they have a friend that cares.


Loretta

AS A GRANDMOTHER and Octogenarian I was very saddened and outraged by the killings in Florida of such beautiful children and teachers. Why did this happen and how can we as seniors and grandparents help to prevent this from ever happening again?
Have we taken too much of a backseat in the lives of our families? Are our own aches and pains taking precedence over being engaged in the welfare of our loved ones. At the very least we should make ourselves available to listen and coach. We are not too old to make a phone call, send a text or visit and take action when we know there is a problem. Reach out and be accessible.
We are all able to contribute encouraging words –We are not too old to be heard. Love is not limited by age. The love that caring seniors extend is usually non-judgmental and rich with understanding and experiences.
Many of us have run to warmer climates to hide and disengage but it does leave a gap in family continuity and traditions. Don’t go running to a warmer climate until the chill is gone from your own backyard. Take the time and effort to learn what your family is doing, what are their expectations and dreams and how do they spend their time. Become more than the occasional phone call and the sporadic birthday greeting. Let your family and friends know that they can count on you to listen and to be attentive to them. Create new traditions with younger family members that move them from behind the computer screens and into learning a new craft, cooking, repairing or just taking a walk. Children love to learn and have new experiences. By sharing life affirming activities you demonstrate that you care about the person and want to spend time with them which is certainly more important than money in a greeting card.
Many of the perpetrators of the recent horrific crimes have been people that appear to be lost without stability and with no regular reminders that they are valued and loved. Please do your utmost to be active and engaged in the mental health and stability of your family. It’s no time to hide be involved.
A recent story on TED Talks featured Dixon Chibanda. He is one of twelve psychiatrists in Zimbabwe for a population of sixteen million. Since he is unable to effectively treat the huge population without assistance he and his colleagues have developed a solution that is brilliant. He has trained Grandmothers as his helpers. The grandmothers sit on a “listening bench” in the village. The Grandmother who meets with the person asks the person to speak about their problems. The Grandmother listens! It is very comforting to the people who are in pain. In addition the “listening bench” is located in their neighborhood so they don’t have to travel far for a comforting word – Very often a little encouragement and taking the time to hear their problems makes a BIG DIFFERENCE! The Zimbabwe clinical trial is a success. –
see it on TED Talks-https://itunes.com/apps/tedconferences/ted
Stop hiding behind the shuffleboard court under a palm tree – start your own listening bench and make a difference that empowers future generations & helps them stabilize emotionally. They need to know that they have a friend that cares.

Loretta

HAPPY NEW YEAR 2018

Winter!  SNOW, MORE SNOW AND MORE TO COME OUR WAY.  Don’t let the inclement weather get you down.  Staychair yoga Active.

  • Remember earlier times when we were younger and we concocted magic in our Kitchens on snowy  afternoons to lift spirits and warm tummies.. Our Family arrived home to comfort & hugs plus  chocolate chip cookies, hot chocolate or the famous Bundt cake with various icing flavors.

During inclement weather try to stay active within your home using your cane, walker or practice chair yoga. I recently completed a 7 week ” Stepping on Class”.  This class helped me with my balancing, walking and improved my awareness of how to negotiate obstacles in my path. It also taught us to not look down when walking but to look ahead and aim high. A real life metaphor for daily living. The class was offered through my community center and it was a very positive experience.

With all the indor activities that we can particiapte in during the winter months let’s change the rhyme to Snow, Snow, Come Out & Play We need to dance ( indoors ) today!

Drinking

What are you drinking? Is it water, is it beer, is it vodka or even a special drink? At our age there is no solution to your drinking. Why do you drink the way you do? If you are consuming and must take large amounts of prescribed medication for diabetes, heart problems, blood thinners, pain in your joints or in your back, neck, stomach etc. why hurt your body by drinking? If you are consuming more than you can handle, perhaps it’s hurting more than your body can digest.

Take control of your life!
Start to reduce your intake of drinking. Instead of saying “I need a drink” get a bottle of water. Water is good for your kidneys, brain, and spirit.

Do not drown your sorrows in a habit that’s not good for you. What you once were is not good for your health now. My dear seniors it makes a world of a difference. You should strive to be a happy person in your later years. My message is, find your happiness by living and enjoying the time you have now, as well as taking care of your body! Make pesto sauce with basil… There’s so much life to enjoy and so much living your body can do, so don’t drink!image

Teeth, TEETH, where did they go?

imageWhat happened to our generation? Where are our teeth?  Many of our neighbors and friends  are lacking a mouth full of teeth.  They are living with no teeth or some teeth.  Why do they not have a smile?  They are ashamed of what they look like. How can you greet your family, grandkids, great grand kids without no teeth? I can tell you why.  Many of our seniors cannot afford the  price of filling their mouths with teeth. They were raising their children and their  families and they put their own health on hold.  Before you know it the teeth were falling out, neglecting themselves. Teeth are an important part of over all health and we need a plan for seniors to regain the teeth they have lost! Famalies need to step up and help the ones who have sacrificed so much for them to put the smile back were it belongs!

 



WHAT ARE YOUR PLANS OR DREAMS FOR TODAY

DO YOU WAIT FOR SOME ONE TO TELL YOU WHAT TO DO OR DO YOU HAVE A MIND OF YOUR OWN AND ARE YOU SAYING TO THE WORLD I AM READY TO TAKE THE RESPONSIBILITY FOR MY OWN ACTIONS.PERHAPS A SMALL RIDE TO THE SUPERMARKET TO CHECK OUT PRICES, FRESHNESS  OF THE FOOD, OR JUST GO TO SEE OLD NEIGHBORS AND MEET SOME NEW FRIENDS.  THE SUPERMARKET IS A WAY TO MEET NEW PEOPLE.  WHY STAY IN THE HOUSE AND NEVER KNOW HANDS ON WHAT  IS HAPPENING ALL AROUND YOU. TELEVISION IS GREAT, HOWEVER MAKE THE MOVE TO GET OUTSIDE, BREATH THE AIR.WALK UP AND DOWN THE AISLES. LEARN SOMETHING NEW EVEN IN A MARKET. DO NOT BE AFRAID TO VENTURE OUT.  LIFE IS FOR YOU TO LIVE, NOT SIT AND WONDER WHA T TO DO.  MAKE YOUR OWN ADVENTURE   CHALLENGE YOURSELF. DON’T LET THE DAY GO BY AND NOT ACCOMPLISH NOTHING. THAT’S NOT LIKE YOU.  IN OUR YOUNGER DAYS NOTHING GOT INTO OUR WAY.  WE DID MANY THINGS IN A DAY.  DO IT AGAIN.LIVE, LAUGH AND LOVE.  I’M COUNTING ON YOU.

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